While every man
is different, there are certain things about a woman that will make any man
stand up, take notice, and make him decide he wants to get to know you on a
deeper level.
If you want to win the right man’s heart, you need to
know what it is that makes a man go from just feeling casual about dating you
to wanting and needing you on a deeper level. I’m going to take you
inside a man’s mind you so you understand what it takes to trigger this kind of
connection.
And I’m talking about a real man – one who is mature
and grounded on a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual level. They are on
a great path and open to growing on a deeply personal level. I’m betting
that’s exactly why you’re on this site: to find a quality kind of guy – a real
man looking for a real relationship.
So what does a mature, REAL man wants in a woman?
1) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is
Playful
There’s something that drives men wild and invites
them into a deeper level of “connection” – play.
Men love to be active and to play. They were raised to
express themselves and connect with those around them through action.
Unfortunately, too many women seem to forget this and
want to talk their way into a man’s heart. But the fact is that men don’t “feel
it” for you because of what you say. It’s not your words that make a man
attracted to you, it’s the experiences you create with him.
Watch or play sports together, be competitive in
casual games like ping pong – even add a little teasing and sarcasm here and
there – and you’ll really ramp up the attraction and interest.
2) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is
Independent
Lots of women mistakenly believe that men are looking
for a “weaker” woman who will make them feel like they are smarter and more
powerful.
Nothing could be farther from the truth.
Real men want a woman who inspires them because she
has great things going on her own life. They want a woman who has her own
purpose other than being in a relationship.
A great guy isn’t intimidated by independence and
success. What matters to a man is that a woman still has space in her life for
a great relationship and is grounded and present when she’s with him.
The best way to communicate this to a man is to stay
busy in your own life and not suddenly make him your world. Don’t drop
your own interests, responsibilities, and friends just to be with him.
And then, when you are with him, really BE with him – have fun and give
your attention to him and what you’re doing together.
3) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is
Emotionally Mature
If a man feels attracted to a woman, eventually
there’s going to be a situation that comes up where you and a man will see
something differently and misunderstand each other.
How will you respond to this and share your feelings?
A woman who has the maturity to not blame or criticize
a man for what she’s feeling, but to share her feelings in an honest and authentic
way that helps a man better understand her will be attractive to a man. How a
woman handles her emotions is one of the most important things men look for
when deciding whether or not to get serious with a woman. If she lets her
emotions get out of control, this is a big red flag to him.
On the other hand, if she can present her feelings to
him in a calm, non-dramatic manner, she will win his respect and make him feel
like she’s the kind of woman who will be a real partner to him. He’ll see
that she can handle things with a cool head rather than becoming a damsel in
distress he has to rescue.
4) A Real Man Wants A Woman He’s
Intensely Attracted To
Fact: Men aren't as scared of commitment and
relationships as they are scared of being in a relationship with a woman where
there is no passion and attraction.
A common way women accidentally kill the attraction
men might be feeling is by either trying too hard to get him to like you, or by
acting like the relationship is too serious too soon.
Relax and let things happen naturally. Make sure you
do and say things that interject fun and humor into your relationship from the
very start. There’s nothing more appealing to a man than a great woman
who knows how to relax and have fun.
You can do this through playful teasing, flirting,
humor, and being unpredictable (in a good way). For instance, instead of
talking about what he does for a living when you meet him (yawn), ask him about
what sports he plays and what drives him. Once you’re in a relationship,
don’t be afraid to shake things up. If you normally go to brunch on
Sundays, suggest something completely different like a bike ride and a picnic.
Mixing things up keeps the relationship fun for both of you, and being a
woman who is open to new experiences is very attractive to him.
source:harmonny.com
